Kabhi socha hai…
Hum aksar uss insaan ke peeche kyun bhaagte hain jo humein baar-baar hurt karta hai? 💭 Jo kabhi paas aata hai, kabhi door chala jaata hai. Jo ek din itna pyaar deta hai ki lagta hai bas isi ke saath zindagi hai… aur doosre din aise behave karta hai jaise hum uske liye kuch hain hi nahi. 🥀
Phir ek din koi aisa insaan milta hai…
Jo bina kisi game ke tumse baat karta hai. Jo tumhari respect karta hai. Jo tumhari chhoti-chhoti baatein yaad rakhta hai. Jo tumhe confuse nahi karta. Jo tumhe ye sochne par majboor nahi karta ki “main iske liye important hoon bhi ya nahi?”
Aur ajeeb baat pata hai kya hai? 🥹
Kabhi-kabhi aise insaan ke saath bhi dil comfortable nahi ho pata.
Kyunki humne pyaar ko itna complicated dekh liya hota hai ki simple pyaar par bharosa hi nahi hota.
Shayad isi ko kehte hain…
Jab green flag se pyaar ho jaaye. 🌿❤️’
Green Flag ka matlab sirf “achha insaan” nahi hota 🌱
Green flag woh nahi jo sirf tumhari har baat maan le. Na hi woh jo 24 ghante tumse chipka rahe. Aur na hi woh jo tumhe kabhi disagree hi na kare.
Green flag woh hai jo tumhe samajhne ki koshish kare. 🫶🏻 Tumhari boundaries ko samjhe. Tumhari feelings ko lightly na le. Tumse baat karte waqt tumhe neecha na dikhaye.
Aur jab tum dono ke beech kuch galat ho…
Toh problem se bhaagne ke bajaye uske baare mein baat kare.
Matlab…
Relationship mein problem aaye toh tum dono ek doosre ke against nahi, problem ke against khade ho.
Aur shayad healthy love ki sabse khoobsurat baat bhi yahi hai. ❤️
Lekin green flag milne ke baad bhi dil ko darr kyun lagta hai? 💭
Kyunki dil ko aadat ho jaati hai.
Aadat us message ka wait karne ki. Aadat har chhoti baat ko overthink karne ki. Aadat ye check karne ki ki woh online hai ya nahi. Aadat uske mood ko apne mood se jodne ki. Aadat kabhi bahut zyada pyaar milne ki aur kabhi achanak ignore hone ki. 🥀
Aur jab ye sab baar-baar hota hai na…
Toh hum us emotional roller coaster ko hi pyaar samajhne lagte hain.
Phir jab koi stable insaan aata hai…
Toh dil ko lagta hai—
“Kuch missing hai.”
Lekin shayad kuch missing nahi hota.
Bas…
drama missing hota hai. 🌿
Jab sukoon boring lagne lage 😶🌫️
Ye thoda ajeeb hai. Lekin sach hai.
Agar tum pehle aise connection mein rahe ho jahan har doosre din kuch na kuch emotional drama hota tha…
Toh ek healthy relationship pehle-pehle boring lag sakta hai.
Wahan har waqt fight nahi hoti. Har waqt jealousy nahi hoti. Har waqt breakup ka darr nahi hota. Har message ke peeche hidden meaning nahi hota.
Woh bas…
normal hota hai.
Aur hum normal ko boring samajh lete hain.
Humein lagta hai—
“Iske liye main pagal kyun nahi ho raha?”
“Ye mujhe utna excite kyun nahi kar raha?”
“Iske saath woh wali feeling kyun nahi aa rahi?”
Shayad kyunki pehle tumhara dil uncertainty se excite hota tha. 💔
Aur ab…
Koi tumhe certainty de raha hai.
Aur certainty ko feel karne mein kabhi-kabhi waqt lagta hai. 😌
Red flag mein tum usse paane ke peeche bhaagte ho…
Green flag mein woh tumhare saath chal raha hota hai. 🫶🏻
Red flag mein tumhara dimaag aksar ek hi cheez mein laga rehta hai—
“Isse kaise paun?”
Green flag mein sawaal badal jaata hai—
“Hum dono milkar is relationship ko kaise sambhalein?”
Difference chhota lag raha hai…
Lekin actually bahut bada hai.
Ek mein tum saamne wale ko convince kar rahe ho ki tum worthy ho.
Doosre mein tum dono already jaante ho ki…
“Haan, hum ek doosre ke liye important hain.” ❤️
Aur pyaar ko har din prove karne ki zarurat nahi padti.
Green flag tumhe confuse nahi karta 🌱
Kabhi-kabhi hum kisi ko pasand karte hain aur uske har behaviour ka meaning nikalne lagte hain.
“Usne good night nahi bola…”
“Usne aaj pehle message nahi kiya…”
“Uska reply dry tha…”
“Story dekhi, reply nahi kiya…”
“Online tha, phir bhi message nahi kiya…”
Aur dekhte hi dekhte…
Relationship se zyada hum relationship ko analyse karne lagte hain. 😵💫
Green flag ke saath ye sab kam hota hai.
Kyuki saamne wala agar busy hai toh bata dega. Agar upset hai toh keh dega. Agar tumse kuch bura laga hai toh baat karega.
Tumhe har baar uske behaviour ka detective nahi banna padega.
Uski silence ko decode karne ke bajaye tum usse pooch sakte ho.
Aur woh jawab dene se bhaagega nahi. ❤️
Green flag tumhari “No” ko bhi respect karta hai 🫶🏻
Pyaar mein “haan” sunna sabko achha lagta hai.
Lekin kisi insaan ki asli respect shayad tab samajh aati hai…
Jab tum “no” bolte ho.
“No, mujhe ye pasand nahi.”
“No, mujhe thoda time chahiye.”
“No, main abhi baat nahi karna chahta.”
“No, main is cheez ke liye comfortable nahi hoon.”
Green flag insaan tumhari boundary ko ego ka issue nahi banata. Woh tumhe guilt feel nahi karwata.
Woh ye nahi kehta—
“Agar mujhse pyaar hai toh ye karna hi padega.”
Woh samajhne ki koshish karta hai.
Kyunki uske liye tumhara pyaar important hai…
Lekin tumhara comfort bhi important hai. 🌿
Aur sabse beautiful cheez… ✨
Green flag tumhe badalne ki koshish nahi karta.
Woh tumhari personality ko apne according mould nahi karta.
Tumhare friends hain? Theek hai.
Tumhare goals hain? Theek hai.
Tumhe apna time chahiye? Theek hai.
Tumhari apni life hai? Theek hai.
Usse tumhari poori duniya banne ki zarurat nahi hoti…
Bas tumhari duniya mein apni ek genuine jagah chahiye hoti hai. ❤️
Aur shayad healthy love ki definition yahi hai.
Do log ek doosre mein khud ko khatam nahi karte…
Ek doosre ke saath khud ko aur better samajhne lagte hain. 🫶🏻
Lekin green flag bhi perfect nahi hota 🌱
Ye bhi samajhna zaroori hai.
Green flag ka matlab ye nahi ki saamne wala kabhi galti nahi karega.
Woh bhi insaan hai. Usse bhi gussa aayega. Kabhi woh tumhari baat nahi samjhega. Kabhi usse galti hogi. Kabhi tum dono ladoge bhi.
Difference bas itna hai…
Galti hone ke baad woh tumhe blame karke bhaagega nahi.
Woh baat karega. Samajhne ki koshish karega. Aur zarurat padi toh apni galti maanega.
Healthy relationship ka matlab no fights nahi hota.
Healthy relationship ka matlab hai…
Fight ke baad bhi respect bachhi rahe. ❤️
Kabhi problem saamne wale mein nahi hoti… 🥹
Kabhi problem humare purane experiences hote hain.
Agar tum pehle kisi aise insaan ke saath rahe ho jahan tumhe pyaar ke liye baar-baar prove karna padta tha…
Toh jab koi bina maange tumhe importance dega…
Tumhe yakeen nahi hoga.
Agar pehle tumhe ignore kiya gaya hai…
Toh consistency suspicious lagegi.
Agar pehle tumhari feelings ko “drama” bola gaya hai…
Toh koi tumhari feelings ko seriously lega toh tumhe ajeeb lagega.
Agar pehle tumhe har baar chhod diye jaane ka darr tha…
Toh koi tumhare saath rehne ki baat karega toh bhi dil kahega—
“Dekhte hain kab badalta hai.”
Aur yahin par ek bahut important cheez samajhni padti hai. 💭
Har naya insaan tumhare purane insaan jaisa nahi hota.
Har baar wahi ending zaroori nahi.
Har baar tumhe hurt hona zaroori nahi.
Har baar pyaar ke baad heartbreak zaroori nahi.
Green flag se pyaar ho jaaye toh usse test mat karna 🚫
Kabhi-kabhi hum unknowingly saamne wale ko test karne lagte hain.
Jaan-bujhkar late reply.
Jaan-bujhkar distance.
“Dekhte hain kitna care karta hai.”
“Dekhte hain pehle message karta hai ya nahi.”
“Dekhte hain mujhe manaane aata hai ya nahi.”
Aur phir hum uske pyaar ko situations create karke measure karte rehte hain.
Lekin agar koi tumhare saath genuinely achha hai…
Toh usse baar-baar prove karwana zaroori nahi.
Pyaar exam nahi hai jisme saamne wala roz pass hona chahiye. ❤️
Kabhi-kabhi trust bhi dena padta hai.
Shayad tumhe butterflies nahi, sukoon mila hai 🦋🌿
Humne pyaar ko movies se bahut seekha hai.
Butterflies. Late-night calls. Jealousy. Possessiveness. Fights. Manana. Phir patch-up.
Aur humne in sab ko love ki definition bana diya.
Lekin real life mein…
Kabhi pyaar bahut simple hota hai.
Koi tumhe ghar pahunchne par message karta hai. Koi tumhari favourite cheez yaad rakhta hai. Koi tumhare bad mood ko personally lene ke bajaye poochta hai—
“Kya hua?”
Koi tumhari boundaries ko respect karta hai.
Koi tumhare saamne tumhe impress karne ke bajaye…
Tumhe comfortable feel karata hai.
Aur ek din tum realise karte ho—
“Mujhe iske saath acting nahi karni padti.”
Shayad…
Yahi pyaar hai. ❤️
Toh jab green flag se pyaar ho jaaye? 🌿
Toh pehle apne darr ko samjho.
Ye mat socho ki tumhe excitement kyun nahi mil rahi.
Ye socho ki…
“Kya mujhe pehli baar sukoon mil raha hai?”
Kya tum uske saamne apni insecurities bol sakte ho?
Kya tum “no” bol sakte ho?
Kya tum disagree kar sakte ho?
Kya tumhe har waqt uske pyaar ko prove karne ki zarurat nahi padti?
Kya tum uske saath rehkar khud ko chhota nahi…
safe feel karte ho? 🫶🏻
Agar haan…
Toh shayad tumhare saamne koi perfect insaan nahi…
Lekin healthy love ka ek chance zaroor hai.
Usse sirf isliye mat khona kyunki woh tumhare purane toxic patterns jaisa feel nahi hota.
Dil Samjho [Meri Baat]❤️
Kabhi-kabhi hum itne time tak galat jagah pyaar dhoondte rehte hain…
Ki jab sahi insaan saamne aa jaata hai…
Toh hum usse bhi doubt karne lagte hain.
Humein lagta hai—
“Ye itna achha hai, kuch toh gadbad hogi.”
Lekin har achhi cheez ke peeche hidden problem nahi hoti.
Kabhi-kabhi…
achha bas achha hota hai. 🌿
Kabhi koi tumhe hurt karne ke liye nahi…
tumhe sambhalne ke liye aata hai. 🥹
Aur shayad pyaar ki sabse khoobsurat feeling woh nahi hoti jab kisi ko dekhkar dil zor-zor se dhadke…
Balki woh hoti hai jab uske paas baithkar dil kahe—
“Haan… yahan main safe hoon.” ❤️
Jab green flag se pyaar ho jaaye,
toh dil ko excitement se zyada sukoon pe bharosa karna seekhna padta hai. 🌿🫶🏻
Pehle aadat thi uss pyaar ki,
jo har baar rulata tha...
Kabhi paas bulata tha,
kabhi khud se door kar jaata tha. 🥀
Phir tum mile...
Na koi game tha,
na koi confusion,
na pyaar ko prove karne ka junoon.
Bas ek sukoon tha...
jo dheere-dheere dil mein utarta gaya. ❤️
Pehle laga,
“Ye itna achha kyun hai?”
Phir samajh aaya...
har pyaar dard dene ke liye nahi hota. 🌿
Tumne mujhe jeetna nahi chaha,
tumne mujhe samajhna chaha...
Meri khamoshi ko suna,
meri “na” ko bhi maana. 🫶🏻
Aur shayad isi liye,
tumse pyaar karna thoda ajeeb laga...
Kyunki pehli baar
kisi ke saath rehkar
khud ko khone ka darr nahi laga.
Na dil ko bhaagna pada,
na tumhe paane ke liye ladna pada...
Bas tum the,
aur tumhare saath
mera dil pehli baar
thoda shaant tha. 😌❤️
Shayad pyaar wahi nahi
jo dil ko har waqt tadpaye...
Kabhi-kabhi pyaar woh bhi hai,
jo dil ko dekhkar kahe—
“Chal...
ab tu thoda aaram kar,
yahan tujhe khud ko bachane ki zarurat nahi.” 🌿❤️
-Devansh Sharma
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